| Uh, Chinese people are, um, can be split into two kinds—Northern and Southern. Southerners are more fond of guests. They like to have group get-togethers or whatever at their homes. They ought to be really glad to have you to their home. But, um, Southerners, especially in areas that are really economically developed, like Shanghai or Guangzhou, these days they’re placing more and more emphasis on their privacy. They don’t like… unless you’re a really close friend, they’re not really very enthusiastic about having you to their house. If you want to talk about something work-related, it’s best not to go to their home. Work should be dealt with during working hours. Even with really good friends, there’s a lot you need to know before you go. For example, it’s best if you know how many people there are in their family, and you should arrange a time in advance. That’s very important. Many times, people have plans. If it’s not convenient for them to see you, [you visit] will be troublesome, even if you’re a good friend. And you need to bring a gift. The gift should be something your host, or their kids, or their pet likes. You need to choose. If you go to someone’s home without a gift, you’ll be thought very rude. Um, so, I want to [talk about] other… people from other areas. Um, they’re… they treat guests differently. They… generally, even in the very developed parts of the South, they hope you can go to a coffee shop or other entertainment venue to talk because it’s less trouble for both people. If you go to someone’s home instead, it’s more messy. After you go, they have to clean up, which wastes their time. People day don’t have time to deal with these kinds of things. | 啊，中国人是，嗯，分南方和北方两种。南方人一般比较好客。他们很喜欢成群结队的在家里嗯聚会或者是怎样。应该是很欢迎你到他家里去的。但是，噢，是南方人呢，尤尤其是在一些经济特别发达的地区，比如上海和广州，啊他们其实现在是越来越注重隐私，不是很希望啊，如果不是特别要好的朋友，是不太希望你嗯到他家里去的。那如果你是谈公事的话，那最好是不要到人家家里去。因为公事一般是应该在工作时间解决的。啊即使是非常好的朋友，在去之前也有很多需要弄清楚的事情。比如说，嗯最好是知道对方家里的嗯数量啦，或者是去的之前应该要预约，这是很重要的。因为很多时候嗯，别人是有安排的，不方便啊接待你的话，即使是很好的朋友，去了也会造成麻烦。还有就是要送礼物。礼物呢要根据主人和也许是他们孩子，或者是他们宠物的爱好，你要选择。如果你去人家家里不送礼物的话，也会被认为是非常不礼貌的行为。嗯，所以说，嗯，你要对对于不同的，不同地区的人，嗯，是，他们是，他们的对待客人的态度是不一样的。嗯，他们，一般即使是南方很发达的地区，他们也希望你们可以去咖啡厅或者其他娱乐场合谈，因为这样对双方都会造都会减少麻烦。否则你去人家家里会会造成一片狼藉，你走了之后人家还要收拾，会浪费很多时间。现在人没有时间处理这些事情。 |