| I'll begin by talking about my personal perspective on gift-giving. Now, if this…. I think that gift-giving can be more or less divided into two categories. The first large category is gift-giving with a goal. The second is gift-giving without a goal. Now gift-giving with an objective is where I want to give someone a gift today, and what I want is to get something from them, or establish some kind of relationship. So, I give them a gift. Now, since I’m giving them a gift, I’ll be sure to [find out about] their, that is, the person to whom I’m going to give the gift, about their background, then about their likes, then about their tastes. [Then], I’ll take a thing that he likes, after I find it, and I’ll give it to him in some kind of special setting because my purpose in giving him the gift is so he’ll remember me. If I do that, he should [be willing to] help me. And when I ask him for help, or when, when I establish some kind of relationship with him, I’ll probably be able to achieve my objective. This is the first kind, that is, gift-giving when you have an objective. Now, in this situation, selecting the gift is extremely important; you want to get something he likes.
The second kind of gift-giving is probably, this kind of gift-giving is probably when you give a gift to a good friend or a relative. Or, say, your family. Now, this time, that is, this kind of gift-giving has less of an instrumental nature. Basically, it’s probably someone’s birthday, or some kind of special holiday, [and] everybody’s been good friends for years, or is related. Now, in fact, you needn’t spend as much time and effort on this kind of gift-giving [as on the kind] that has an objective. In this situation, that is, when you’re giving a gift, you probably won’t think as much about [getting something] totally tailored to the recipient’s tastes. I probably would, might, that is, [get] something that I like myself, the kind of thing where I’d hope my friend would share it with me. So I’d hope, that is to say, by reflecting my own tastes in it, maybe he’d, [maybe it] wouldn’t be what he liked, but something that would make him appreciate what I liked because, after all, he’s, I’m his good friend. I’d be introducing him to this thing. This is gift-giving where there’s nothing to be gained or lost. I think that when you’re talking about good friends, you don’t need to think about it so much; you can be very much yourself. Compared to your original, to the instrumental gift-giving we just talked about, actually, I myself, I think there are huge differences between these two because, when you give someone something, the difference is really huge when you have an objective and when you don’t have an objective. That’s my take on this question. | 我现在先从我个人送礼的这个观念来讲啊。那如果说呢这个我认为说送礼它大概分成两类，第一大类就是有目的的送礼。那第二个是没有目的的送礼。那有目的的送礼就是说我肯今天送给他礼物，我只是想要啊从他身上达到某一些的好处，或者跟他建立某一样的一个关系。所以我今天送他这个礼物。那送他这个礼物，所以在这个情况之下我就会特别的去对于这个人，就是我即将要送礼物的这个人，对他的这个背景，然后对他的这个喜好，然后喜爱呢,就是说在怎么样特殊的环境之下呢，把他喜欢的东西，然后把呢它找出来之后呢，然后送给他，因为我今天之使用送他这个礼物就是让他能够记住我。那这样子的话那应该帮助我，我可能要求他帮忙的时候，或是跟他建立某种关系的时候呢，我就可以去达到我的目的。这是第一种，就是你很有目的的送礼。那这个时候挑礼物是非常重要的，就是要挑他喜欢的。
那第二种送礼就是说可能这种送礼就是说，可能是你的好朋友或者是你亲戚要送礼。或者是说是你的亲人。那这个时候就是说这种送礼是比较没有目的性。基本上可能是啊他的生日啦，或是某种特别的节日。那大家是多年的一个好朋友，或是呢亲戚。那实际上象这样的送礼就是比较不用那么样的费心思有一个目的呢在上面。 那在这个时候就是说可能送礼物，就不会去想到说完全以对方的意思呢为意思。那我可能会也许就说我自己喜欢的东西，那我希望我的好朋友一起跟我来分享这样的一个东西。所以那我希望就是说哎我把我自己的东西加在里面，啊也许他，不是他喜欢，但是就是他可以感受到我喜欢什么样的东西，因为他毕竟是我是他的好朋友。那我把这个东西介绍给他，那这样其实也没有利害关系的一个送礼。那我觉得呢这个对好朋友来讲，你就不需要去考虑那么样的多，你可以非常的自己啊 ，跟你原先刚刚呢很有目的的送礼来讲，其实对我来讲我会觉得这两个有非常大的一个不同，因为你要送给对方你有目的跟你没有目的实际上是差别非常大的。那这是我对这个问题的看法。 |